So the results are in, and it seems you all are CHEAP dates- most of you will be happy if your significant other even remembers V-day, let alone woos you with dinner or a dozen roses.
On the other hand, I read somewhere that the secret to happiness is lowered expectations, so maybe you all are on to something...
For my part, I know I'll at least get a card or something, because I make sure to drop plenty of hints, circle the day on the calendar, and wonder aloud frequently what my FRIENDS' husbands will be getting them for Valentines Day. I think of this not as being demanding or bitchy, but as giving fair warning. I'm doing him a favor, actually. At this point I know that Jim would much prefer shelling out a few bucks to Hallmark over an evening of silence and wounded, accusing stares should he FORGET the holiday. And while I would prefer that he remember all on his own and surprise me with a grand gesture, I also know myself, and know that my disappointment should he FORGET would outweigh any delight I might feel over an unprompted romantic gift or dinner.
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I don't know that I've ever gotten a Valentine's Day gift. I'm not a huge fan of the holiday, so it doesn't really bother me much.
ReplyDeleteI already told him not to get me anything this year. I said I'd rather he just write me a nice letter or make me something meaningful, so we'll see how it goes. My favorite gift is a massage, but I know if I tell him that's what I want he won't give me one. I might try some subliminal messaging. lol
I dislike V-Day intensely, so my hubby is off the hook (and vice versa).
ReplyDeleteOh, I totally see it your way, and so does Paul after a few years of trying it otherwise: if I can make it hintingly clear what I have in mind, EVERYONE is going to be happier. It's even trickier for him, because some years I don't feel like I need anything for Valentine's Day or anniversaries, and other years I DO. He doesn't like to give hints or say what he has in mind, so what I do is the same as I've hinted for myself: the years I'm "meh, let's not!" I don't get him anything either, and the years I want something I get him something. I also always give him the opportunity to hint, in case he wants to change his strategy.
ReplyDeleteI'm totally over it. For the first two years of our relationship I cared deeply and was highly disappointed, and not due to any lack of effort or thoughtfulness on Torsten's part, either. Then last year we were mid-move on V-Day and it was our best yet. So, I'm over it. I should really write a post about this.
ReplyDeleteI would love to get a gift without reminding. We'll see what happens this year, but he HAS had plenty of reminders that Vday is coming, so I know he won't forget. I got him a gift he's really going to like this year and I'm more excited about THAT than anything.
ReplyDeleteWE ignore Valentine's day around here. Mardi Gras basically takes over and only people who are really into Valentine's go all out. Me? I'm happy if I score some candy at Walgreens.
ReplyDeleteThe husband and I started dating right around Valentine's Day. I didn't and don't really care about the holiday, but until we got married, we celebrated it as our anniversary. I was ready to give it up in favor of our marriage anniversary, but the husband -- bless him -- almost always insists on celebrating it still. We just do a special dinner, chicken parmesan, which was the first dinner he cooked me that first Valentine's Day together.
ReplyDeleteok, so Hubs always has great intentions on holidays, he's going to get a great gift, he's going to plan all this fun stuff to do, he's going to blah blah blah. But! There was the Christmas where I got windshield washer fluid, a candy bar, and a free calendar because the flying J was the only thing open at 11:00pm on christmas eve. There was the valentines day that was made up for on my birthday and my birthday that was made up for weeks later. He's an intentions giver, so I can't be all "YOU DIDN'T GIVE ME JACK SHIT" because he MEANT TO and he WAS GONNA but he was SO BUSY. God, I hate it so much.
ReplyDeleteZero disappointment. But if there's something I have in mind, I tell Hubs what it is. This year we just bought furniture that's to be delivered the 16th and he said flat out 'happy valentine's day'. Which was fine. We've never been all that ROMANTIC, so I don't really have any expectations that he has to live up to.
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